A woman's role in a relationship

I go on Pinterest to look for cute relationship ideas, we have an anniversary coming up, and I'm appalled by the lack of women willing to say that they are equals in their relationship.  I'm appalled that these women who have blogs and business's are not willing to say they are equal to their spouses.  We don't live in the 1950's anymore.

 These are actual pins on relationship boards:
-How to Empower your husband to be the head of your home
-5 secrets to supporting your husband when he's down and out
-Five ways to speak love to your man
-Letting our husbands lead when we love control
- How to put your spouse first(centered on how to put your husband first)
-4 reasons a wife should speak well of her husband

Everyone in the relationship is important and equal in importance. EQUALS. Whether you are man and woman, man and man, woman and woman or any variety of human physical body parts that love another set of human physical body parts: stand up for yourself and be an equal in your relationship. . You are both equals.

There is no always listen to your husband/boyfriend if he does not extend the same to you.
There is no go out of your way to make life easier for her, if she does not do the same for you.
Both of you do the parenting.
Both of you do the laundry.
Both of you take out the trash.
Both of you do the dishes.
Both of you do yard work.
Both of you pay the bills.
It is about patience and sacrifice on BOTH of your parts.
You are there to support and love each other.

Relationships are hard. Marriages are hard.  Do not ever put yourself as not equal to your partner. That is where relationships fail.

I'm sick of women being subservient to their husbands. You are just as smart, strong, and capable as your spouse. Both men and women. You are equals working together for a strong foundation. You both have strengths and weakness's. Utilize each other's strengths and mitigate weakness's. If you know your boyfriend isn't the best at giving compliments when you change your hair: get those compliments from your girlfriends. If your girlfriend just isn't as into baseball as you are: watch it with your buddies. Don't get upset at your spouse for being something they are not or not liking something as much as you do.

Basic relationship advice for all:
Be kind.
Be respectful of the other person's opinions and wishes.
Help your spouse whenever you can.
Lift them up when they are down
Be supportive of them.
Speak well of them to others.
Keep your relationship private. No one else needs to know your problems. Those are between you and yours spouse.

 It does not mean being their servant or letting them walk all over you. Stand up for your damn self and act like a lady or man. EQUALS people. A woman's role in a relationship is equal to a man's. You are both responsible for the success of your relationship.  We all need to lift each other up, not tear each other down.  It's our responsibility to help each other be better in our relationships by lifting each other up.