Mindset is NOT everything

If I hear one more person use the word mindset in the sense that if you change your "mindset" your business will magically take off, you will manifest loads of money, and you don't have to do any actual work: I'm going to lose my shit.

That's not how it works!!!!!!!!!!

Is it a component? YES.
Is it the entirety of the problem? NO.

You can change your mindset all you want: to be more positive, less judgmental of yourself and others, you can change it to be more open to accepting larger amounts of money. YOU STILL HAVE TO DO THE WORK!!!!!!!

Rant over.

Long time no see

So it's been a really long time since I updated this.

Here's what's happened.

We moved to an amazing new neighborhood which is WAY safer.
We got engaged in early december.
We are planning our wedding.
I moved over to the business owner side of MyNutraceuticals: the company I helped build.
I'm working on building my Outlier Consulting Services business which is my true passion.

That's all for now. :)

A woman's role in a relationship

I go on Pinterest to look for cute relationship ideas, we have an anniversary coming up, and I'm appalled by the lack of women willing to say that they are equals in their relationship.  I'm appalled that these women who have blogs and business's are not willing to say they are equal to their spouses.  We don't live in the 1950's anymore.

 These are actual pins on relationship boards:
-How to Empower your husband to be the head of your home
-5 secrets to supporting your husband when he's down and out
-Five ways to speak love to your man
-Letting our husbands lead when we love control
- How to put your spouse first(centered on how to put your husband first)
-4 reasons a wife should speak well of her husband

Everyone in the relationship is important and equal in importance. EQUALS. Whether you are man and woman, man and man, woman and woman or any variety of human physical body parts that love another set of human physical body parts: stand up for yourself and be an equal in your relationship. . You are both equals.

There is no always listen to your husband/boyfriend if he does not extend the same to you.
There is no go out of your way to make life easier for her, if she does not do the same for you.
Both of you do the parenting.
Both of you do the laundry.
Both of you take out the trash.
Both of you do the dishes.
Both of you do yard work.
Both of you pay the bills.
It is about patience and sacrifice on BOTH of your parts.
You are there to support and love each other.

Relationships are hard. Marriages are hard.  Do not ever put yourself as not equal to your partner. That is where relationships fail.

I'm sick of women being subservient to their husbands. You are just as smart, strong, and capable as your spouse. Both men and women. You are equals working together for a strong foundation. You both have strengths and weakness's. Utilize each other's strengths and mitigate weakness's. If you know your boyfriend isn't the best at giving compliments when you change your hair: get those compliments from your girlfriends. If your girlfriend just isn't as into baseball as you are: watch it with your buddies. Don't get upset at your spouse for being something they are not or not liking something as much as you do.

Basic relationship advice for all:
Be kind.
Be respectful of the other person's opinions and wishes.
Help your spouse whenever you can.
Lift them up when they are down
Be supportive of them.
Speak well of them to others.
Keep your relationship private. No one else needs to know your problems. Those are between you and yours spouse.

 It does not mean being their servant or letting them walk all over you. Stand up for your damn self and act like a lady or man. EQUALS people. A woman's role in a relationship is equal to a man's. You are both responsible for the success of your relationship.  We all need to lift each other up, not tear each other down.  It's our responsibility to help each other be better in our relationships by lifting each other up.

Curses are really blessings at inopportune times

Sometimes curses are blessings at really inopportune times.

So for the last 3 weeks we have been worried about moving. Our last apartment decided to not renew our lease due to the fact that our apartment keeps flooding every time it rains on the window: and each time we expect them to fix it: which they sort of do. Mind you: my spouse is a water restoration tech, so we are well aware that they are breaking a BUNCH of laws in our city by NOT doing it properly. Anyhow, we got the notice Sept 2nd.

So I spent the next week and a half frantically searching for a place that was in our budget and would accept our 70 lb bulldog(who thinks he weighs 25 lbs). I called 200 apartment complex's. The market in Colorado Springs, for apartments has shot up 200% in the past 6 months. That's insane! The area where we were living(not a nice area mind you) was increasing their rent to a level that was unheard of. After looking and looking and worrying that we wouldn't find something in time, there was a light in the tunnel.  We found a place. It was perfect. It accepted dogs(after meeting them), was individually owned and was ready to be moved into. We put in our application: they only accept one applicant at a time.  We were accepted, paid all the necessary fee's, and moved in this weekend with the help of a friend.

I have barely sniffed or sneezed this weekend. Unsurprisingly the only times I sniffed and sneezed, were when we went back to the old apartment to get stuff. Our new apartment is as allergen free as I can hope.  We have wonderful, sweet neighbors, a park across the street, open space within .5 miles of the apartment, a wood burning fireplace, a washer and dryer, and a dishwasher. We are in heaven.

Happy Monday Everyone!

About the ESPY's 2016

I have two things to say about the ESPY's 2016.

1.  My boyfriend asked me tonight why there are so many moments that make you cry in the ESPY's. Here's the reason. Sports are our escape from the issues in our lives, but once a year we get to remember why sports are so important to us: because they let us take a break from the issues at hand. Now is the time to use sports to help tackle the issues we face as a society. Lives continue regardless of the outcome of a sporting event.  The issues we face right now will not continue regardless, they will escalate. Changes need to be made and everyone needs to be a part of the conversation. Athletes, as members of the media, have the unique opportunity to spread peace and change. I can only hope that tonight that message has been made more apparent. It starts with each and every one of us. Be a good human. We have to start making things unacceptable: crime, drugs, companies lying to their consumers etc. We have to make it possible for children to attend school without being afraid for their lives. Education and tolerance are key to improving the lives of everyone in our country.

2. Cancer is treatable without poison. It's treatable and curable without chemo and radiation. Please before you let your doctor pump you full of poison, do your research. There are multiple herbs that cure cancer.  Everyone should have access to marijuana as medicine: it is a proven treatment and cure for numerous disorders and diseases. Please remember to treat those who use marijuana as a treatment the same as you would treat someone using any other treatment option.

A Championship: from the girlfriend of a Die-Hard Cleveland Fan

I'm the girlfriend of a Die-Hard Cleveland Fan. Since we started dating 4 years ago, all I've heard about is the Curse. The fact that with having 3 major league sports teams(Browns, Cavaliers, Indians): Cleveland hasn't won a championship in 52 years. Cleveland has a Die-Hard fan base. Each year they cheer and cheer only to be eternally disappointed.

That ended last night. The Cavaliers finally won a championship. As a sport psychology consultant there is so much I could say about the game and the followups: but all that matters to me today is that Cleveland won a championship. Tomorrow I can talk about everything else. Today: Cleveland has won a championship.

The last 5 minutes of that game were some of the tensest of our relationship. I sat on the couch with my head on my hands(with a severely strained wrist and an ice pack) watching the seconds tick down and the score go up and down. David was standing inches from me staring at the TV as if he stared at it harder the Cav's would suddenly play harder. It seems they heard him. The seconds ticked down slowly and then somehow it all sped up and the Cavaliers had won. David looked at me and I had tears in my eyes. For 4 years I've watched this man root for teams that couldn't hold up to his hope. I'd watched his father and friends be disappointed year after year. I am the girlfriend of a Die-Hard Cleveland fan and last night I cried for Cleveland. I cried for all the disappointments and heartbreak that led him and them to this moment. This moment of happy tears and celebration.

I don't know if I've ever been this happy for someone else's team or city. I can't call Cleveland my own as I only lived there for a few months with him before we moved. But as a girlfriend of a Die-Hard Cleveland fan: I now know the joy that finally having a championship for your city means. Congratulations Cleveland Cavaliers, Cleveland Fans, and the City of Cleveland: you have your pro-championship.

To Cleveland and Cleveland Fans: Please don't forget about your semi-pro hockey team that just a week and a half ago brought Cleveland a championship as well. Without them: you may not have had the support you did this week. They broke the curse and brought your luck back.

Congrats babe: the Curse is broken.

<3 Bethany

Kratom: a natural pain killing alternative

I guess I'm one of those crazy people now: the people pissed at the government for trying to ban a plant from being used for medicinal purposes. Today we are talking about Kratom: it's made from a plant. It's being used as an alternative to pharmaceutical pain killers by people who don't want to be addicted to vicodin, percocet, and other heavy opiates. Yes, Kratom is an opiate.  Now we have states banning the use of this because it might be addicting.

Lets talk about things that are addicting that the FDA has cleared:
1. Cigarettes
2. Soda Pop
3. EVERY OPIATE MEDICATION

But if the FDA/ States banned those there would be an uproar and a huge lack of funding from pharmaceutical corporations,  tobacco makers, and big corporations in Washington.

I use Kratom. I was prescribed Vicodin at the age of 18 because my periods were so painful, I couldn't attend classes. I was on those from 18-25. I still have an active prescription but don't need it anymore. I started taking Kratom last year when I found out about it at a smoke shop in my hometown. I had a long talk with the salesperson and then came home and did my research. What did I find? Tons of studies saying how Kratom is an amazing alternative to pharmacueticals and how it can be used to help those with addiction to heavy opiates reduce their need and frequency of use.  I pay $10 for 30 vicodin, but I happily pay $1 a pill for Kratom. When I take it, there are no side effects. I don't get woozy or disoriented. I can drive, work, continue my day like normal.

Our government banned marijuana: knowing full well that it cured cancer and helped control a number of other conditions. Our government knows full well that cigarettes and soda cause cancer and obesity. They know full well that pharmaceutical medications are highly addictive on both a physical and psychological level, but will not put a ban on them.

Kratom comes from a plant people! But our government isn't the first to ban it. It was banned in Thailand because it cut into the government's take of opium sales. People were using Kratom instead to cut their addiction to opium.

WAKE UP AMERICA! Stop letting the government, politicians, and big corporations determine what is acceptable and not acceptable to put in our bodies(lets just be logical: some things don't need to go in your body). Plants were the original medicines of the world. Our biggest problems started when we stopped using plants and instead made synthetic versions of medicines to replace them.

Kratom has helped me, and so many others to live without crazy side effects from pharmaceutical medications.

Please let your congresspeople, senators, local politicians, and even your doctors know that Kratom is a wonderful alternative. Before we let them take away a plant: they need to do as much research on Kratom as they have on marijuana(which is now legal in most states medicinally), and do as many clinical trials as for any other drug on the marketplace. If we're going to be fair about it, do the damn clinical trials, make it go through FDA approval. People won't stop using it regardless, but at least the FDA will have to create proof to ban it. If they want to put it in the same category as MMJ that's fine: make people have an honest talk with a doctor about their need for it. But if you're going to do that: you should do it for tylenol, advil, and Aleve as well(they are proven addictive).

Before you jump on your high horse, do your research like I did.

Here is the CNN article that talks about Kratom.
http://www.cnn.com/2016/06/10/health/kratom-opioid-withdrawal-pain-relief-supplement/index.html